How Anxious Attachment Affects Your Relationship With Yourself
Anxious attachment doesn’t just show up in your relationships—it shapes the way you treat yourself. If you struggle with overthinking, self-doubt, and seeking external validation, your relationship with yourself may not feel like a safe place. Here’s how anxious attachment leads to self-abandonment—and how to start healing.
How Trauma Affects Your Root Chakra (And How to Reclaim Your Sense of Safety)
Trauma can leave you feeling ungrounded, anxious, and disconnected from your body. Your root chakra—the energy center for safety and stability—can be deeply affected by past wounds. Learn how trauma therapy, somatic healing, EMDR, and grounding practices can help you reclaim your sense of security.
Why Saying No to Family Feels Impossible for People-Pleasers
Do you feel a pang of guilt whenever you consider saying no to a family member? Maybe it’s agreeing to take on yet another responsibility, even when you’re already stretched thin. Or going along with a family plan, even when it clashes with your needs or desires.
For people-pleasers, saying no to family doesn’t just feel hard—it can feel impossible.
The Fear of Disappointing Others: Why It Happens and How to Heal
Do you find yourself overthinking everything you’ve said or done, wondering if you’ve upset someone? Maybe you apologize constantly, even when you’ve done nothing wrong, or avoid conflict at all costs—even if it means ignoring your own needs. If this sounds like you, you’re not alone.
Are You Always the One Holding It Together?
Do you ever feel like it’s your job to keep everything and everyone together? Like you’re responsible for everyone else’s emotions and well-being?
You say “yes” to everyone like it’s your mantra. People praise you for being so helpful, but inside, you cringe. You’re exhausted from carrying the weight of everyone’s needs, yet you don’t know how to put it down.
Therapist Thoughts: Your Therapist Gets It About People-Pleasing
Let’s be real: People-pleasing isn’t just a habit; it’s a full-time job that never pays well. And here’s the plot twist— I get it because I’ve been there, too (yep, me!). The need to make everyone happy runs deep, and breaking free from it isn’t easy. But the journey is worth it.
Therapist Thoughts: “Everything about therapy is going to make you feel uncomfortable in the beginning.”
This is a normal part of the process because you’re sharing deeply personal experiences with a stranger. That can feel weird AF and vulnerable...
Why Positive Affirmations Alone Don’t Work
Maybe you’ve tried reciting “I am good enough,” or “I am abundant,” but neither of these felt or sounded true. Your body and nervous system need to be on the same page for them to work.
4 Things I Do When I Feel The Urge to Say “Yes” (As A Therapist & Recovering People-Pleaser)
Things I’ve had to be honest with myself about: It’s okay to want to say “yes” to others AND it’s important to understand where the “yes” is coming from. We often hear about setting boundaries and IMO, boundaries are not meant to keep people out. They are a bridge...
Therapist Thoughts: “I wish more people understood you can have a ‘good’ childhood and still experience trauma.”
Let’s talk about it: Your childhood may have looked “good” to others on the outside OR actually felt good most of the time inside. But, yet you felt like: your parents were physically there, but emotionally distant...
Were You Called the “Good Girl”?
The “good girl” who is “mature for her age” and a “pleasure to have in class” grows up to be the woman who:
Always wants to “keep the peace”
Doesn’t know how to put herself first
Is disconnected from her feelings
Conversations with Healers, Helpers, and Guides: Stop Your Inner Child From Running Your Business. Go from Self-Doubt to Self-Confidence with Nicolette Tomaszewski, LPC-MHSP
Today, we are talking with Nicolette Tomaszewski, LPC-MHSP, she helps high-achieving, burn out people pleasers go from self-doubt to self-confidence with her signature Freedom Forumala in 6 months. Nicolette is incredibly passionate about her work and a true inspiration for female business owners.
How a No Can Show Up In Your Body
Have you felt the difference a “no” and a “yes” within? Sometimes it can be even harder to honor the “no.” Maybe there was a time when someone asked you for a favor or to take on a project and deep down you felt a “no,” but anxiety influenced saying yes and people pleasing…
How EMDR Therapy Helps You Practice Self-Compassion
It can be easy to seek validation from the outside and even harder to allow ourselves to receive it from the inside. But, the truth is: it doesn’t matter how many times you hear someone say “your needs and boundaries are important” or “your emotions are valid,” if you don’t believe it yourself….
How a Yes Can Show Up In Your Body
Have you ever felt your heart do a happy dance or butterflies fluttering in your stomach? The subtle sensations, the release of tension, the warm embrace of self-compassion – that's how 'yes' can manifest in your body. “Somatic awareness” is like deciphering a secret code your body has been using to speak to you all along.
The Messages Your Inner Child Received About People Pleasing Are Impacting Your Mind, Body, and Spirit Today.
What messages did your inner child receive about people pleasing? We often hear about how these messages affect our thoughts, but consider for a moment how they affect your body and spirit. Our MBS is undeniably connected. Maybe it was planted that you needed to always…