Are You Always the One Holding It Together?
Do you ever feel like it’s your job to keep everything and everyone together? Like you’re responsible for everyone else’s emotions and well-being?
You say “yes” to everyone like it’s your mantra. People praise you for being so helpful, but inside, you cringe. You’re exhausted from carrying the weight of everyone’s needs, yet you don’t know how to put it down.
The Heavy Weight of People-Pleasing
You keep the peace to protect yourself, but it feels so heavy. The guilt sits on your shoulders, your chest tightens, and butterflies swirl in your stomach at the thought of saying no.
You wonder:
“Will they like me less?”
“Will they think I’m not good enough?”
This internal conflict can be overwhelming. On the surface, you’re the reliable one, the helper, the fixer. But underneath, you’re carrying the weight of expectations, fear of rejection, and a deep desire to feel worthy.
Here’s the Truth
💡 Their emotions aren’t your responsibility.
💡 Your worth isn’t tied to how much you do for others.
It’s not about doing more—it’s about letting go. Healing starts when you release what was never yours to carry and reconnect with the part of you that deserves to feel free, safe, and enough.
Burnout and Anxiety: The Deeper Work
You’ve probably tried affirmations, mindfulness practices, or even nervous system hacks, but the burnout and anxiety still linger. Why? Because this isn’t about fixing—you’re not broken. It’s about going deeper.
Healing means looking at the inner child who learned that love and acceptance came from saying “yes” and giving more than she had to give. Imagine showing her she’s worthy just as she is—not for what she does, but simply for being herself.
It’s Time to Choose Yourself
🌿 It’s okay to take a breath, set a boundary, and choose yourself. It’s not selfish—it’s self-care.
Ask yourself:
What’s one thing I can let go of today that was never mine to carry?
When you start letting go, you begin to create space for the peace and freedom you’ve been longing for.
If this resonates, know that you don’t have to do it alone. Therapy can help you unlearn these patterns and reconnect with your authentic self—the one who deserves to shine brightly, just as you are.
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About the author: Sabrina Cruz, LCSW, RYT-200 is a psychotherapist and yoga teacher who truly values holistic care. She supports women to break free from people-pleasing and unapologetically embody their light. HHWS specializes in people pleasing, anxiety, and childhood wounds to help you heal from trauma, reparent your inner child, and embrace your authentic self.
This blog post is for informational purposes only and does not substitute for mental health or medical advice.