Therapist Thoughts: “I wish more people understood you can have a ‘good’ childhood and still experience trauma.”
Let’s talk about it: Your childhood may have looked “good” to others on the outside OR actually felt good most of the time inside. But, yet you felt like: your parents were physically there, but emotionally distant...
People Pleasing Has Little to Do with Keeping Others Happy
People-pleasing is an external attempt to prove your worthiness to another person. It may be hard for you to believe you are worthy, just as you are. We may consciously think “I don’t want to let this person down” or “If I say no, they will be mad, upset, disappointed, etc.” Because the idea was planted somewhere of “I’m not worthy” or “I am only worthy when I do xyz,” self-sabotage sets in to confirm these beliefs.
What is Trauma?
Trauma is a normal response to an abnormal experience. It involves psychological and emotional responses to an event or situation that is deeply distressing. These responses can continue to affect a person, even long after the event has passed. Anytime an event catches us off guard and leaves a distressing impression, it can be considered traumatic….